Modern Day Wedding Trends

If you look back as far as even ten years ago (or even my wedding day in 2010), you will see how much traditional wedding trends have changed. Millennials are taking matters into their own hands and putting a modern twist on how they step into forever with their significant other and we applaud them. Below are just a few of the modern day wedding trends we are seeing couples embrace.

Just look at how happy this modern couple is!

Shopping for engagement rings together

What used to be one partner taking the lead in popping the question as the other dropped subtle hints has now pivoted to couples making it an outing and choosing the ideal engagement ring together.

According to a recent study, one third of couples browse for ring styles together. Some even end up splitting the bill. This could be because the average spend on engagement rings has gone up twenty-five percent from 2011.  While the average time spent looking for a ring can go on for around three and a half months. Not to mention, couples have said that they looked at an average of twenty-six rings before deciding on the one.  So maybe joining forces to get a little extra help from your significant other isn’t just a bonding experience, but a time and money saver as well!

The “First Look”

Although it is far from traditional, couples are opting to see each other before the ceremony. We call this the “first look” in the wedding world. I am a fan!  To me, there is something so exciting about that moment you tap your soon to be husband or wife on the back.  It is a little secret you share. Believe it or not, the tradition started during the time of arranged marriages. I think we are all more modern than that today!

Wedding Venue vs. Church

Another modern day wedding trend that has become more and more common is nixing a traditional church ceremony.  In 2016, only twenty-six percent of couples had their wedding ceremony in a religious establishment proving that the majority of marriage ceremonies were taken place at the venue or elsewhere.

There are a number of reasons why this is becoming the new trend. One being that the ceremony and the reception can be held in the same location. This makes things convenient and straightforward for your guests, meaning fewer people getting lost (yes, this happens). In addition to the convenience factor, having your ceremony at the venue allows you to choose who you’d like to perform the ceremony as well as decorate the space the way you’d prefer. Traditional churches, unfortunately, have some barriers when it comes to accommodating your specific needs.

Renting Attire Online vs. Buying In Store

It used to be customary to go in to your local tuxedo and bridal shops to rent/buy your wedding party attire. Now, the more modern day approach is to go online and rent from companies such as The Black Tux for your wedding tuxedos and Azazie for your bridal party selections.

Couples find it more convenient to rent this way rather than go in store. Not too mention, your bridal party is scattered across the US or the world.   It seems as time goes on, that renting online will be the more efficient way to obtain your wedding day apparel. Plus there are great options. Just don’t wait too long to order or try on before the day.

Photography: Christina Lilly Photography

Florals: Devon & Pinkett

Tent: Sperry Tents

Planning & Design: Gilded Lily Events

 

Balancing Motherhood and Entrepreneurship

I am pretty sure that the elusive work-life balance does not actually exist. Yet we are all still constantly striving to reach that goal. Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, once said, “There’s no such thing as work-life balance. There’s work, and there’s life, and there’s no balance.”  We all just need to make it work. As small business owners and moms, we need to make it work even more since the lines between work and life blur much more frequently. I hope by sharing some tips for balancing motherhood and entrepreneurship, you can get just a bit closer to that “balance” we hope to find.

It has been said that if you are a small business owner, you can only choose 3 at any given time. Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness, Friends. As a mom, sleep and family are non-negotiable so that leaves me with one. Inevitably, it is work. However, if I completely neglect the other aspects of my life the guilt sets in. I am going to suggest some tips on how to hold it together the best way I have learned how.

Find Your Tribe

On the day my doctor confirmed I was pregnant and suggested my due date as April 17th my second feeling after pure elation was anxiousness. As a wedding planner, I had booked a wedding a year before and it was scheduled for April 22nd. How would I make this work? How would I break the news to the bride? Well, I found out it was much easier than I had thought because I had chosen the people I work with wisely. I have been lucky enough to work with clients that also value family. They also trust me to make sure everything runs smoothly even without my physical presence. That is how I knew that I found my tribe.

I have also surrounded myself with people on my team that care just as much about my small business as I do. I am lucky to have found these people and trust them to delegate those tasks that take me away from family, sleep, fitness or friends. That is invaluable to me and worth the effort I had spent to cultivate.

Prioritize yourself.

My days are jam-packed with entertaining a 13 month old, squeezing in work during naps and bedtime routines, preparing tiny meals and cleaning tiny dishes. The days go by in a blur. I recently decided to build in one night a week that was just for me. On Tuesday nights, after I have put my son to sleep I do something just for me. Before baby, I enjoyed spending time by myself. I like the quiet and time to reflect. I crave that time even more now as a self-proclaimed introvert. I look forward to those nights and it gets me through and re-energizes me to take on the next busy day.

Create a schedule.

As women, we are master multitaskers. However, I have felt my anxiety rise when I try to do too much at the same time. Just because I can doesn’t mean I should. I have learned that I am a much better businesswoman and mom when I create space for both. This will look differently for each individual of course. Some may be better at it than others. So, I suggest creating a schedule for you that works and stick to it. We crave schedules and it helps us get through the day with much more ease. Believe it or not, the best investment I made as a small business owner was a sleep-training consultant. I was able to put my son on a sleep schedule that allowed me to create a schedule with confidence. If you are struggling to get through the day, maybe see if there are places where you can create a bit more structure. I have a feeling it might just help.

It is ok to say no.

I am a people pleaser. It is one of my best and worst attributes. Yet in these days I am learning to say no and not feel guilty about it. It is hard to say no to every new inquiry or creative collaborations that comes your way because you are saying no to more money or a cool opportunity but at what cost? Determine as a family what you feel comfortable taking on as you navigate and “balance” these early years as a mom and an entrepreneur.

This is still an on-going learning process for me. I hope just reading some tips might help you with some perspective on being a mom and a creative entrepreneur. Every family situation is different and we are constantly comparing our situation. I advocate that if you can get to a place where you feel secure in how you are making it work then you, my friend, have found the secret to the balance.

Photo Credit: Christina Lilly Photography

Venue: Content & Co.

Calligraphy: Mary Kate Moon

Rentals: Dovetail Vintage Rentals & Party Rental Ltd.